Psychology identifies the loneliest person in most social circles

SadaNews - A new study has revealed that the person who always organizes dinner parties that bring friends and neighbors together, who remembers everyone's birthdays and offers help with moving, is often the one who ends up spending weekends and events alone.

"Deep Paradoxes"

The new research pointed out that there is a deep paradox in this pattern, explaining that those who seem to control everything and on whom everyone can rely, often turn out to be the loneliest people, according to what was published by Global English Editing.

It added that they are not outcasts or difficult personalities, but rather the backbone of every social circle; yet, somehow, they evade true communication.

For her part, Dr. Susan Bialy Hass saw that the "helper" personality often serves as a mask for profound loneliness and a desire for connection.

She considered that the best helpers are those who understand pain and loneliness more deeply.

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Meanwhile, Dr. Jennifer Gottman pointed to the phenomenon of power turning into isolation, noting that it manifests when those who support others rarely find someone to turn to when they themselves need help.

She added that in this case, a strange dynamic arises when a person's competence becomes a barrier for them.

The surprising twist is that loneliness is not just a feeling; it is, in fact, a biological alarm system.

Unique Treatment Methods

It is noteworthy that the most concerning aspect according to the research is leaving loneliness unchecked, as a study from the University of Chicago reported that loneliness increases selfishness.

To address this dilemma, the research highlighted that we should first stop assuming that competence equates to satisfaction. Just because someone handles stress well does not mean they are not suffering from it.

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Recent studies also suggest that lonely individuals process the world in unique ways, with their neural responses differing from their peers, particularly in areas linked to shared perspectives and understanding.

Furthermore, the study confirmed that when a person opens up to those around them about their struggles, they grant others permission to do the same.

At that point, the helper becomes a human being, and suddenly, genuine communication becomes possible.